Talking about porn can make even the most confident parent freeze up. You might worry about saying the wrong thing, or feel unsure what’s “normal.” The truth is, most teens will come across pornography online long before they’re emotionally ready for it—and your calm, caring presence matters more than any perfect script.

You don’t need to have all the answers. You just need to stay curious, grounded, and open to hearing what your teen already knows. Here are seven ways to start that conversation with care.